Just You and I. Me and You. Us.
Dear sweet Ella,
Daddy and I have been talking about having another baby. Daddy has been bugging me for quite some time now to make our family larger, but I am still a bit hesitant (because I am the sane one, remember that).
After having you, part of me struggled a bit with finding a balance. I returned to work 5 weeks after you were born, and spent the following year walking a tight rope for first time as a new mom, balancing work hours in a hospital, starting an entrepreneurial venture online, managing a new marriage, all the while breastfeeding you EVERY. THREE. HOURS. for all eternity.
Two years later I still find myself still trying to juggle it all (minus the hospital and leaky boobs). And in this time you’ve grown, crawled, walked, and spoke your way into your own individuality, but yet, I still feel as if we are one. As if you are still my little baby girl.
I have never been separated from you longer than a day. We eat every meal together. Sleep in the same room. We walk hand-in-hand where ever we go (even to the bathroom). Since the day you were born it’s been you and I. Me and you. Us together. And it still is.
Daddy’s work usually keeps him away for long hours, and it’s been hard for both of us. But I have been so lucky to spend the past year with you at home. I treasure every moment we share. When we laugh. When we sing. When we leap around like lemurs on Zaboomafoo because the neighbors downstairs are equally as annoying. When we just need to glance over at one another to know precisely what inside joke to giggle about.
I am probably being silly, but I worry. Every night you go to bed, you ask for “mommy.” Every morning you wake, you ask for “mommy.” Every time I think of my baby, I think of …“Ella.”
What if a new baby makes you feel less loved? Less wanted? Less special? What if I fail miserably at balancing my time between the two of you?
And then I find you doing things like this. Sharing with your orange crab chair cushions delicious tea from your Disney teapot…
or hosting an evening tea session with close furry friends.
Are playdates and classes not enough?
Part of me wishes that I could just give you another sibling. Someone to stay up late and share secrets with, to keep you company while riding in the backseat of our car, a future partner in crime to plot evil schemes against daddy and I, or just someone who will kick a ball back to you. I wish it were that simple.
The day I left our house to give birth to you in the hospital, before I closed the front door I stood there for one final look at our home and knew that it would never look, sound, or feel the same way ever again when I returned. And now I stare at your table wondering how different life will be like with tea set up for two, one of them no longer for me.
I wish I didn’t feel as if part of you would slip away by making room for another…
Whatever it may be I love you more than you know.
~ Mommy
That’s so touching it made me all misty eyed. Truly.
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January 21st, 2008 at 1:31 am
oh wow, I’m not a mommy but that post still really hit home. It was beautiful. I can imagine a lot of mommies feel that way when they are thinking about having a second child. To be honest, I think both have their pros and cons.
I am an only child (because my mother had to have a full hysterectomy when she was only 29). I remember when I was younger, bugging my parents to have a baby, or to adopt one. I was always jealous of my friends who had sisters and brothers and at home it was just me.
As an adult I feel mixed emotions about it. When I look back to my childhood I realize I was blessed being an only child. I had my parents all to myself! I didn’t have to share my toys with anyone, fight over clothes as a teenager or have to put up with a sibling’s crap. When Santa came, it was all for me! At dinner time I had my parents’ full attention. It was great.
The other side of the coin is wondering what happens to me when my parents are gone. I’m married to a wonderful man, but in this day and age I am realistic and know anything can happen. Once my parents are gone, if something happens with/to my husband, I have no brothers or sisters to turn to. I am all alone.
I think it’s a tough decision, having one or more children. Either way though, your child will love you to the ends of the earth and back. As I do with mine…
January 21st, 2008 at 3:19 am
Aw hun, I got all teary reading this. Good luck with whatever you decide.
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January 21st, 2008 at 4:56 am
You put in to words exactly what I was feeling when we got pregnant with our 2nd child…but you think you have given your whole heart already and, by a miracle, your heart grows with your family and it is like you have a whole other heart to give to your next child…and the memories you build with the second child are so wonderful and so differnet than those with your first…you should not feel pain with considering having another child…siblings are a blessing for your kids and it just makes your family and its happiness grow…good luck with your decision and your daughter will love you endlessly no matter what choice you make!
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January 21st, 2008 at 6:38 am
aww that is exactly how I felt about Zack when we started trying for Max. Life’s still upside down but it IS worth it. You will always have enough love to go around, I felt like my heart just got bigger and there is more love to go around.
When you think about it, Ella will still be young enough that she wouldn’t remember when she got older that she’d ever been without her sibling. Just something to think of
Whatever you decide you are a wonderful person, your daughter loves you and always will, and you will do the best you possibly can by her.
*hugs*
January 21st, 2008 at 7:47 am
Awww, sniff…… (nothing intelligent to add from my side,….sniffle…..)
January 21st, 2008 at 8:01 am
You are truly blessed, Sandy..
Such a from the heart episode..
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January 21st, 2008 at 8:23 am
Your post reminded of me when I left to give birth to our second child. I sat in the car hysterically crying while my first little guy standing at the door waiving goodbye to me. I knew at that very moment it would never just be mommy & donnie time.. But it is amazing the capacity of which your heart grows and you find those the special time to make for the first as you do the second.. Good luck on the decision.
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January 21st, 2008 at 8:45 am
WOW! A post like this is tugging at the heartstrings of someone that loves kids but chose not to have her own.
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January 21st, 2008 at 8:52 am
I wanted to have 6 kids…stopped at four when I decided review my sanity. Each child is so unique…so amazing…so wonderful. Sometimes children get jealous…feel ignored…feel unloved…get lonely and think they are not special.. I think they will do this whether they have a sib or not. I always wished that I could protect my children from any painful thing. I think that is programed into our mommy genes. Anyway…that is not realistic and probably would cause the child to grow into a dysfunctional adult so it is a good thing that I didn’t get my wish. That does not stop me from wishing. I still wish for that all the time. Anyway for me more was better. I loved the mayhem. We are all so unique…you will make the decision that is just right…custom made for you and your family.
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January 21st, 2008 at 9:07 am
awww. very sweet. What a beautiful devoted mother you are.
I’ll tell you about siblings, they won’t get less of your love but they will get more sibling love and devotion. If you ever decide to expand your family, the little bro/sis will add to her cache of love and think that she is the greatest thing since sliced bread. You aren’t subtracting love and attention you are adding more.
{{hugs}} that jump from 1-2 kids is a huge one. Don’t feel pressured to do it if you don’t think it’s best for your family.
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January 21st, 2008 at 9:50 am
This is such a sweet post!
In an ECFE class a woman once said that you think you can’t possibly have enough room your heart for another…but you do. I have remembered that for years, and she was right. I felt the same way you do, but now I can’t imagine not having *both* of my kids. Your heart will grow bigger–I promise!
I wasn’t at all prepared for the workload that having another added, but it’s worth it.
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January 21st, 2008 at 9:51 am
Oh and when/if you are ready, I recommend reading Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber to read *before* a new baby is born. That helped me with the worrying about my son feeling displaced.
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January 21st, 2008 at 9:54 am
You are such a good Mom. And if Ella has learned anything from you, at all, she will have learned to love and she will. And your commenters are right – you will be surprised at how you will love Ella no less but still be able to love the new baby as much – it’s like your heart is the TARDIS – it’s much bigger on the inside than it would appear to be from the outside.
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January 21st, 2008 at 9:59 am
this is really touching and two kids is still ok, but three? i dont know if we hv enuf hands to hold them. two is like, one for daddy, one for mummy, and take turns..best of luck with ur decision!
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January 21st, 2008 at 10:06 am
Move me to tears, why don’t you? Not nice to do on a full moon, you know…playing with a girls emotions. Shame
You are a great and loved mom…and with two you’ll find that there’s even more love to give and received. But do it in your time…in then end your family will be as complete as you want it to be…no matter how many children you do (or don’t) have!!
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January 21st, 2008 at 10:50 am
Hi Sandy,
Oh my! This is how I felt when I was thinking of actually trying for baby #2. I knew I wanted another baby and that I wanted to have them close in age, but I was so worried about my son. It has just been the two of us, all day, every day. When he was almost 1 year old, I found out that I was pregnant, I was so stressed and worried about him. I cried a lot. I cried b/c I was worried about him, I was worried how I would handle it all, IF I could handle it all. I was crying b/c I was crying. I felt bad that I was sort of feeling bad/nervous/worried and stressed about a new baby that I should be happy and excited and anxious about. I had a tonado in my stomach constantly wondering and worrying about EVERYTHING. I wanted this baby, I really did. We were trying… thinking it would take a lot longer, for many reasons. But, blessed when I found out we were pregnant again. All these feeling you described about you and what you worry about Ella feeling, are exactly what I had for me and Trevor.
I had done this motherhood thing only one time, and I was doing okay with it… but was that a fluke, could I really pull it off again… was something else I was thinking. I held Trevor for him to go to sleep for the first 8-9 months of his life, I had changed almost Every. Single. diaper. I gave him Every. Single. bath. I was there for every moment, and every day and any time he wanted me I was able to go right that minute.
I miscarried. I was devestated. I thought it was my fault. I blamed myself. If I hadn’t stressed so much or worried so much, then maybe. Just maybe it wouldn’t have happened. And, I know secretly that Bryan blamed me too. He was really upset. I think he was also a little bit mad at me too. The dr said it wasn’t anything that I had done, not even all the worrying and stress…
We decided to wait a little while, but not too long to try again. I got pregnant the second month that I was on fertility drugs, and was happy, and nervous after having the miscarriage a few months earlier. I was also still worried about Trevor.
He turned two on Sept 29th one week later I had the girls. I balance it most days. Some days I feel like ripping my hair out. But, I am the only one that notices that. They are all happy and healthy, well-balanced children, and most of all… they love one another in a way that is so awesome. Like a parents love, unconditional… but there is something else there too… something so magical and special and just truly amazing. Sometimes I worry about them all getting thier own time and attention, but we work on that together as a family. And, it is almost like kids know how to balance it better than us parents… Trevor has always been fantastic with the girls, never. ever jealous of them. I’m so happy with our family and our life I couldn’t imagine it any other way.
Take a deep breath and if this is something that you and your husband want… know that you can do it. You really can. And that it it totally normal to feel all those feelings and worry and stress… if you didn’t do any of that you wouldn’t be the amazing mother you are!!
And about loving them the same or having enough love… it is just wonderous how you have that first little baby, you look at them and you are instantly in-love… from the moment I was pregnant and feeling Trevor move and kick and seeing him on the sonogram pictures I knew I was in-love with this baby in a way that I had never loved before… then when I first held him and kissed him, my heart felt like it would explode. When I had a sonogram at 7 wks to make sure all was well with the pregnancy and they showed us this little tiny “bean” I was in-love all over again. Then to find out there was two, it was that heart exploding feeling… I saw those babies so much on a monitor while pregnant, I couldn’t wait to meet them either and really see the faces of the two little miracles that I was so in-love with already.
Sending you lots of hugs… {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}
xoxoxo Jenn
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January 21st, 2008 at 11:11 am
Thanks so much everyone for leaving me your comments, wishes, and empathic thoughts…..You are all too quick for me!!
I posted this late last night, and went to bed shortly after. This post apparently sucked the life out of me last night.
And then I woke to find all of you had already stopped by!!! …..Thank you
January 21st, 2008 at 11:31 am
*sniff* You are truly a gifted writer! What a beautiful post!
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January 21st, 2008 at 11:57 am
I had the very same feelings when contemplating #2- and more. I was so in love with #1 I wasn’t sure I could love any other like that. Well, along came #2 and I felt a whole dofferent kind of love for him. Just as overwhelming but unique, just like he is. And watching #1 be so tender and caring towards #2 made me love him even more. And he knows it. Siblings are a gift to each other.
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January 21st, 2008 at 12:37 pm
I don’t expect you to believe me, but part of her will not slip away by making room for another.
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January 21st, 2008 at 12:38 pm
That was really beautiful. What I think, though, is that love is not a pie, where the more people have to share it, the less everybody gets. When you have a baby, you just bring that much more love into your family, and into the world.
Not that you should do anything you don’t want to, and if you’re not ready for a second baby, I don’t want to push you. But I do want to assure you that it won’t make you love Ella any less. I know it’s hard to see how that could work, but you can trust those of us who’ve already taken the leap – it really, really does work.
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January 21st, 2008 at 1:16 pm
This post just made me tear up
Your daughter is a very lucky little girl!
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January 21st, 2008 at 1:46 pm
Perfect post! Did you really look back, before giving birth? I wish I had taken a moment to that. Now, three kids later… things are so different!
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January 21st, 2008 at 1:50 pm
so sweet that it gave me goosebumps…whatever happens will be grand.
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January 21st, 2008 at 1:53 pm
sigh. i imagine the stuffed animal-filled tea party is why my mom had my sister. well… i KNOW the sentiment behind it is why my mom had her. when she got on my nerves, i used to yell, “WHY DID YOU HAVE HER?!” and she always told me “so you would have someone to play with.” wow. this is about to make me cry. i’m feeling bad because my response 9.89 times out of 10 was, “but i didn’t ask you for that.” i was always (too) independent. but i can’t imagine my life without her. siblings are good for you. they make you normal. plus even if you started trying now and got immediately knocked up (hilarious terminology to me) she would still be about 3 years older which is much better than 2 or less (my sis and i are 19 mos apart). the closer in age i think the more drama.
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January 21st, 2008 at 2:18 pm
Jameil – curious that you should say that about the closeness in age causing more drama. My sis and I are just 17 months apart. I always thought the greater the age gap, the more drama. All the girls we knew who had sisters with several years between seemed not to consider them as friends or allies in any way. They envied the closeness my sis and I had in school and still have as we enter our senior years. I was determined to have a second child before my daughter was 2 years old so that she would have that friendship and closeness, that someone to play with. Unfortunately I was never able to carry a second baby. She ended up an only and sometimes I think she never forgave me for that.
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January 21st, 2008 at 2:43 pm
That’s such a lovely post!
I was worried about the same thing when I was pregnant with Connor, but in fact, Bradley has amazed me. I love the fact that I have 2 children.
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January 21st, 2008 at 2:45 pm
I’m being silly Sandy…bec i’m not a Mom yet and this post left me teary eyed…for whatever reason.
I feel your love as a Mom…yet I know should that time comes…she will be fine…and will love her little sibling!
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January 21st, 2008 at 2:48 pm
There is always room in your heart for more children, but is there sanity in your head for more? That is a question only you can answer. My question is, why is it always the non-primary care giver, the one pushing for another child?
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January 21st, 2008 at 3:16 pm
There’s always enough love to go around. You might even find that you love Ella more after seeing her kiss her brother/sister for the first time. Just sayin’.
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January 21st, 2008 at 3:31 pm
That was just…..beautiful.
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January 21st, 2008 at 3:32 pm
Dylan was 12 years old when his brother was born and it was REALLY hard to add another child at that point. My hubby and I had a lot of long, hard discussions about having a baby and we had a bunch of reasons why we shouldn’t do it. The second we saw Noah’s little face all those reasons flew right out the window.
Your post was absolutely beautiful and I’m sure you’ll make whatever decision is right for your family.
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January 21st, 2008 at 3:46 pm
That is such a sweet post, there’s a huge chunk in my throat right now!
That picture with her furry friends, your thoughts and considerations …
You ARE such a good mom!
BIG BIG HUG!!! and a kiss for Ella!
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January 21st, 2008 at 4:37 pm
Wow — you never cease to amaze me. I guess you’re feeling better at last? I stopped by to tell you I left an award at Small Reflections for you. Reading this post just validates my decision. Are you and/or your husband without siblings? I find my friends who were “only” kids tended to have just one child … and those with siblings tended to have two or more. I’m sure whatever you decide will be right … if you listen to your heart and have faith.
Hugs and blessings,
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January 21st, 2008 at 6:14 pm
Thanks so much everyone who are parents and even those who are not for leaving me your sentiments…it means so much
Sometimes it’s just nice to hear that your thoughts aren’t absolutely nutty….or completely selfish.
Hubby actually has 5 siblings, so 6 kids in total, and I have 1 brother. My husbands family has kids only 15 months apart, and some 16 years. The ones close in age certainly had drama growing up. My brother and I are 5 years apart, and I think it was too much. So I suppose I need to find a happy medium..which would be right about……….now
January 21st, 2008 at 6:32 pm
Before I had my second chiild,i was trying to find a balance in our family.Sometimes we need to sacrifice alot for the family.As you can see my child are in four years gap.It was a hard decision to me too at that time but i guess whatever decision you make it we will support you.cheers
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January 21st, 2008 at 7:36 pm
i remember feeling such extreme guilt, when i found out i was pregnant with my second child. i had spent the first 15 months of my sons life, joined at the boob and hip…and i was guilt ridden that it was going to change, before he was two! but, when i told him, when he could sort of understand…he was thrilled! and, the guilt went away. from the minute he found out that there was a baby in mommy’s tummy…that was his baby. he loved it…and, he has been an awesome big brother, since. our bond, mine and his…it only strengthened. so, whatever you chose…it will be fine!!
January 21st, 2008 at 8:14 pm
Stop. Making. Me. Cry.
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January 21st, 2008 at 9:37 pm
Sandy, that was beautiful. Ella is such a loved child, she’s so lucky. There’s no doubt about it, the decision to have another child after the first is a tough one, all the questions you’ve been asking yourself are only natural. You love the way your life is now, having one child is certainly manageable, you’re able to enjoy the time by focussing on your precious one (and still have time for hubby.)
We started thinking about #2 when Liam was about 1, more out of necessity and my age, fertility issues etc. But perhaps it was because I felt these extra pressures that it tipped the scales wayyyy in favour of trying to have #2 at all costs, and you know how human nature is, the more you want, and the harder it is to obtain it, the more you want…but that was me and our specific situation.
There is no “perfect” age gap. What determines that is your family dynamic, and what works for you. When and if you decide to go down that road, you’ll see that you have more capacity than you know to love another child. You shouldn’t worry about that, and Ella won’t lack for anything in that department, that’s for sure. And I’d bet you anything that she would be the best big sister.
Hugs to you.
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January 21st, 2008 at 10:59 pm
awwww…what touching thoughts. All I can say is that two are a lot harder than one, but you don’t love the first any less or the second any more. To give your child a sibling is the greatest gift as they will never be lonely in the world (of course my siblings and I are REALLY good pals and some are not so fortunate, but i think that bond has a lot to do with how you are raised). My kids are 4 and 6 now (girl and boy) and they are best pals. Don’t wait too long because Ella will be off to Kindergarten before you know it!
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January 21st, 2008 at 11:39 pm
yeah.. I am feeling the same thing right now… I keep wondering how my heart can love someone new as much as I love Kya! It sometimes feels impossible.
I have to trust it will and know it is good for Kya to have someone to complain to about me
January 21st, 2008 at 11:44 pm
Clearly, your post resonated with a lot of moms. Me as well . . . There are days I can’t imagine having another and days I can’t imagine NOT.
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January 21st, 2008 at 11:49 pm
You have a way with words woman.
Having 2 is definitely very very different than having 1. Your heart just grows bigger to allow room for the 2nd (and 3rd and..) child instead of dividing the love.
Best of luck. You’ll do great, and Ella will be a wonderful big sister.
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January 21st, 2008 at 11:49 pm
I guess we are pretty much in the same boat. I have one son now and I’m agonizing whether I should have another. I just can’t seem to make up my mind!!
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January 21st, 2008 at 11:59 pm
Sandy, it appears that what you’ve written here has obviously elicited emotions in people. I’m no different. I’m the baby of 5 and always thought I would have another. Alas, the concern is different when you can not. (how will he get through this world on his own? what happens when I grow old or if something happens to me? will he be alone?)
Either way, I think you maybe don’t give yourself enough credit!! You’re great!!
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January 22nd, 2008 at 12:16 am
That was so gorgeous. I think I may have cried a little even.
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January 22nd, 2008 at 12:45 am
She’s gorgeous
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January 22nd, 2008 at 12:47 am
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January 22nd, 2008 at 1:31 am
If you can write and think thoughts like that, then how ever many little ones you have, it will always be the right amount.
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January 22nd, 2008 at 7:01 am
You totally made me tear up with this one girl! I think it’s awesome that you recognize the change that comes with a new addition. I missed that transition when my second was born…mostly because he came 10 wks early…but still, I would have loved to have savored each drop of one on one time with my oldest. While I was pregnant with Ella, I treasured up every moment with my boys and enjoyed everything about being a family of 4 that was soon going to pass. Having waited 5 years between my 2nd and 3rd has allowed for Ella and I to have one on one time, so now I wrestle with the idea of a new baby, too. I’m probably done building my family, but wow, what a tough thing to say never to!!!! Anyway, I love that you treasure these times with her, but I want to encourage you by letting you know that you have room enough in your heart to be mother to the world. That’s all you need. Love.
Let the Son shine,
Victoria
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January 22nd, 2008 at 8:04 am
aloha!
Love this post! So sweet and so true! I love your blog too! Found you on Crea8buzz..just added you too! I also voted for your blog on Top Mama! Hope you have a great week! Your little girl is adorable!
January 22nd, 2008 at 1:11 pm
Oh Sandy, that was the sweetest post ever!
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January 22nd, 2008 at 1:23 pm
Oh Sandy, what a beautiful post for your little girl.
I think everyone has those thoughts. My son will most likely grow up an only child but I would like to have another. When I’ve actually mulled the idea around in my head (with my future husband I have not met
), I start having thoughts just like you. And my friends did too. And it all works out. You’ll love all of your kids more than life itself and will find a way to make them feel special individually.
Breigh, wow, I’m an only child too. I can relate to you big time.
January 22nd, 2008 at 1:58 pm
Golly could you at least warn us before you make us cry?
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January 22nd, 2008 at 4:38 pm
That was so bittersweet…and it completely threw me back to the months before my second baby was born. I felt exactly the same way…and John would often catch me tearing up over it all. Change is so hard…even good change.
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January 22nd, 2008 at 6:56 pm
What a sweet sweet post! Ella will surely love this when she’d read this years from now.
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January 23rd, 2008 at 4:28 am
*sniff sniff* this is such a wonderful post. so heartwarming.
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January 23rd, 2008 at 7:17 am
Interesting post.
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January 23rd, 2008 at 7:54 pm
ugh… it’s sooo not easy… I wish Scout could be pregnant … I might be less resistant to the idea…
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January 23rd, 2008 at 11:11 pm
You have to do what you feel is right for you. Just know that whatever you feel for your daughter is what you will feel for number 2 (and 3 & 4 in my case). And while being an only child has some advantages, I think having siblings is a wonderful thing.
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January 24th, 2008 at 1:09 am
Beautiful post Sandy. Amen to Cakes who says there is a big leap from 1-2. A friend of mine said, AFTER my second one came home, that one is one but two is ten. Yep.
But that said, I felt like as older parents we didn’t have anything to offer Sara as she grew older. She needed siblings. Of course now we couldn’t imagine it any other way. Sara calls Mia her baby, and is extremely protective. Mia is old enough – finally – to be a playmate, and it is great. We love them both so incredibly much.
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January 24th, 2008 at 2:55 pm
awwwwwwww… that’s so sweet!!
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January 24th, 2008 at 8:04 pm
Sniff. Sniff. Sniff. I can’t stop crying. Seriosly. I have two and felt the same way you do and still feel this way. I’m so thankful for little Jo coming into our lives and making three become four. Still I miss just me and Hank. We were a team and now so much has changed between us and is different. It’s good to have two or three or just one. Bless your heart.
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