Sometimes a little heat goes a long way
… if you place it directly under someone’s ass.
The drawer sticks. It does not close very well. And I am still unsure if it is sturdy enough to handle anything inside
But… I’m not saying a word, at least not anymore.
Dadisodes and I finally talked. Actually, I probably spoke a little louder. And as usual, his selective amnesia for all things handy miraculously resolved immediately. However, I’ve been down this road before.
I raise a stink; he suddenly volunteers to do laundry and fix things he’s left untouched for 9 months.
It never lasts. Not for any longer than a day.
However, after speaking (loudly), he surprising admitted to just not being able to complete most of the projects around the house. So we decided that if and when we can, we should hire contractors rather than waiting around for him to piece meal the dozen or so unfinished projects around the house over the next ten years.
And I have resolved that this will take time.
However, until then….
No. new. projects.
I guess sometimes when you light a fire, you should let it smolder before you burn down the house.
PLUS, he’s agreed to buy a “real“ lawn mower. Just in case. Because I have strange premonition I will continue to be the one doing that chore.
It takes my husband forever to get stuff done too…and I usually just end up calling someone else! In fact, last week I had the painter come, paint our family room, and my husband is just so used to it now that he came in and said, “oh, the family room’s painted. I like it!” I’m just glad we’ve got a system worked out now…
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June 25th, 2009 at 8:50 pm
Good for you for having the talk for a start! Don’t be afraid to have some version of it again. I’ve also found that talking about goals for raising our children helps too: if we agree on common standards (such as, that they’ll clean up one project before moving on to the next), it sometimes helps focus him too, since he worries about setting a good example. Hang in there. I wish you much success.
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June 25th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
My best friend has a handyman that she has come in and do all of her projects a couple times a year. It makes everyone much happier.
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June 25th, 2009 at 9:02 pm
Good luck…. no new projects… that might be a tough one….. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for ya.
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June 25th, 2009 at 9:04 pm
But new projects are so much fun!
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June 25th, 2009 at 9:31 pm
I hope you feel better getting it out anyway…. hugs!
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June 25th, 2009 at 9:31 pm
I can relate to the being unable to do the projects — I’ve been fighting a leak in the sprinklers for 2 months now. I.Am.Not.Handy.
At all.
But I do mow the grass and do laundry, and the dishes, and clean the bathroom.
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June 25th, 2009 at 9:44 pm
Yippeee, the drawer is fixed…that’s a start. Glad to hear you guys talked. But you’re right, unfortunately sometimes you have to light a fire for things to get done. Something tells me I’m going to be the one mowing the lawn in our new house too. Thank goodness we’ll be having a riding mower…phew!!!
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June 25th, 2009 at 9:50 pm
Well, at least you talked it out and you know where it stands!
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June 25th, 2009 at 9:56 pm
::hugs:: I’ve been there. It’s frustrating when they are better for a few days and then go back to their old ways.
Good luck. And I hope that all those projects get finished sooner now that you are going to hire someone!
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June 25th, 2009 at 10:03 pm
Seems we have husbands that need us to get them through life. I think you are wise to have a contractor come in although it is expensive, it can save a marriage (not that I think your marriage is actually in any danger).
Hang in there — at times it does get better. And in time this becomes amusing.
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June 25th, 2009 at 10:14 pm
Well, one down and 9 more to go??? LOL
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June 25th, 2009 at 10:25 pm
One complaint I do not have about my spouse. He’s really handy, and he doesn’t complain about doing the chores.
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June 25th, 2009 at 10:31 pm
Crack that whip honey!!!
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June 25th, 2009 at 11:12 pm
I’m glad that you finally got him moving!
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June 26th, 2009 at 12:12 am
I really relate to your story. My husband and I have spoken about the incomplete projects, however I don’t want to spend the money to hire outside help. I guess, for now, I’ll wait patiently…
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June 26th, 2009 at 12:21 am
It sounds like a real break through, Momisodes. We crossed that road in our marriage, too, and it’s been a much happier Eatwrite home since. D is better about the things he DOES have time to do and better about not taking on the stuff he really shouldn’t and can’t.
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June 26th, 2009 at 6:53 am
Sounds to me like good decisions are being made. You two love each other – and it’s good that you’ve discovered a way to work around sources of irritation that might otherwise taint the way you feel.
Like SWMBO says about husbands – “Sometimes ya just gotta smack ‘em.”
Thus the reason she is obeyed.
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June 26th, 2009 at 8:06 am
Did you record the conversation so you can just bust it out next time this becomes an issue? Then you can just save your breath.
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June 26th, 2009 at 8:19 am
Sigh….men….!
June 26th, 2009 at 9:36 am
Hubby is like this too. So hard to get him to do something he promised he was going to do. Our dresser? It’s falling apart and has been for like a year. Has it been fixed? Nope.
They say girls marry their fathers. I did. My mom is currently sitting in a completely unfinished living room that my dad said he was going to paint about two weeks ago. He’s been outside, starting other projects he won’t finish.
June 26th, 2009 at 10:43 am
I’m glad you had a ‘talk’ and it got through him (at least for now).
No-new-project is a great start.
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June 26th, 2009 at 10:51 am
My husband is incapable of not starting new projects. I hope yours can hold off!
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June 26th, 2009 at 11:22 am
LOL @ lceel’s comment!
I’m really lucky that my husband is handy. I occasionally need to give him a nudge and once in a while a kick in the pants, but the job gets done.
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June 26th, 2009 at 11:48 am
some men are like that, jut have to bear with it. my husband is like that too and he can be very forgetful. so now i am used to telling him to do something at least twice in a row.
but i can live wo a drawer like u for 9 mths! hehe…
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June 26th, 2009 at 12:10 pm
At least the drawer looks nice.
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June 26th, 2009 at 2:24 pm
Hiring a contractor? You can do that? Wow… I gotta try that one.
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June 26th, 2009 at 4:47 pm
milk it for all it’s worth – too bad we all can’t figure out how to make the changed behavior in our other half last a little longer
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June 26th, 2009 at 6:06 pm
I’m catching up. Your way with words is cute and awesome, and the drawer looks nice!
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June 26th, 2009 at 11:02 pm
LOL…good for him admitting he can’t do it all but too bad you’ll have to hire out the work. It’s tough to keep up with work, kids and house maintenance — when do we get to have fun?
June 27th, 2009 at 2:52 pm
I am right with you on the lawncare thing. I am the main yard mower and a good mower is a must.
Sometimes I feel like all I do is bitch to get things done…it’s exhausting and rarely works..but what else can I do???
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June 27th, 2009 at 3:39 pm
I’m glad he finally fixed that drawer for you. I know what it is like to try to get your husband to do a little around the house. Mine will do laundry and household chores but if there is a house project, forget it. Sometimes it will take him a while to get motivated to do it. Good for you to get on his case about the drawer.
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June 27th, 2009 at 6:58 pm
All right!!!!
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June 27th, 2009 at 10:59 pm
You mean, you had a talk and it actually had a positive result? AWESOME. You do know that in many marriages that is a rarity.
Now, with contractors afoot, you’ll have all the blog fodder you’ll need!
as if you needed any
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June 27th, 2009 at 11:57 pm
Good for you. I agree with the not starting new projects thing. There is nothing more frustrating than have a new project started, excited about the end result but never seeing it.
June 28th, 2009 at 11:19 am
Yea for you! Mine has that amnesia too. Must be a man thang.
Here’s to completing old projects! *raises coffee mug*
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June 28th, 2009 at 12:51 pm
Congrats! It is very difficult to get my husband to agree to hire someone. And then we does, he complains about everythign the contractor does. One good battle deserves another
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June 28th, 2009 at 1:29 pm
I’m glad you came to an understanding! But good luck with the no new projects thing. I think the very act of owning a house results in a never ending list of projects.
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June 28th, 2009 at 8:07 pm
The cabinet looks good
. And I think the idea of no more new projects is a good one…lol!
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June 29th, 2009 at 10:51 am
Why does it take us loudly and “politely” (maybe not too polite) expressing our feelings to them before anything gets done, or before they admit they can’t do it. I go through that with hubby as well.
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June 29th, 2009 at 2:49 pm
I’m glad you brought up your concerns with him. It sounds like he’s not very focused on house issues, probably mostly on work issues. Sometimes you have to keep reminding them (not in a nagging way) how much those little things affect you. Hiring a contractor is a great step. If there’s already a system in place, such as hiring someone every few months, it helps keep it from becoming an argument.
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June 30th, 2009 at 10:15 am
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